Transformative Relationship Therapy (TRT)
The Journey of Transformative Relationship Therapy (TRT)
Human relationships are complex and dynamic. The hardest thing we do as human beings is having relationships with other human beings. Yet, relationships form the cornerstone of personal growth and fulfillment in our lives. Just as climbing Mount Everest requires supportive relationships, embarking on a journey of transformation necessitates meaningful connections and support structures.
Transformation transcends mere change—it entails a profound shift in one’s being, akin to the metamorphosis of a caterpillar to a butterfly. Rooted in honesty, self-awareness and connections; a transformative journey requires commitment to rigorous self-examination and authenticity, expanding our relationship to the world around us and the people whom we share our lives.
The Lifestyle of Rigorous Honesty
At the core of this journey lies the principle of rigorous honesty. Without honesty, meaningful transformation is unattainable. Whether it’s being truthful with oneself or others, honesty forms the bedrock of growth and integrity. Through introspection and self-awareness, you can identify and challenge the lies they tell themselves and others, paving the way for genuine transformation.
The Priority of Relationships
This tool prioritizes the relationships in our lives in form and function. All human life is based upon relationships. You have relationships with all the people, places, and things you come in contact with. Your relationships form the basis of success and failure, happiness and sorrow, sickness, health and so on. Command your priority of relationships and you command the nature of life.
The Personality Column
We are everything we think, feel, say, do, and believe. When these simple elements of our personality are out of alignment, we diffuse the volition and energy of our lives. When we think, feel, say, do and believe all the same thing, like a column, we have structural integrity able to support the challenge of living.
The Elements of a Healthy Relationship
Communication- (Commune-I-Action) Commune means to come together, become one, join. I=you. You must act. Put the C-after the A and now you have action. Communication is the act of coming together. This definition seems lost in our modern world. Everybody wants to be heard, but few want to listen. Hearing is a function of the ear listening is a function of the mind and heart.
Trust-Is a byproduct of healthy communication repeated over time in an expected manner. When behaviors also follow this time-tested pattern, trust soon follows.
Respect-“Re,” means to do it again, “spect” means to look, see, view, etc. When we respect each other, it means we are willing to “Look Again” in the moment at the people we share relationships with. So often we lose connection with others because we think we know them. When we stop acknowledging constant transition into the new, the different and the present, we have lost respect for each other. Nothing is static or permanent.